No, not for me. In case you haven’t been paying attention, I’m already married. A very good friend who we’ll call L for now (until she gives me official permission to say her full name) is getting married and asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. Okay, sure, fine. She’s an excellent friend and, hey, I’ve been through the whole wedding thing before.
Thing is, I’ve never actually been a bridesmaid. I’ve got a handful of female friends but close female friends? Uh, yeah. One’s married. One’s L. One loves being single. One’s too busy with pharmacy school. One’s about to move. End of list.
This is, is all likelihood, my only chance to play bridesmaid unless, you know, my brother gets married at some point. But he’s more the call and say ”Hey, guys, just wanted to let you know I’m married.” type – though he would at some point have a great party filled with good beer and BBQ and the only dress code requirement being flip flops.
So this whole bridesmaids thing means I get to think about weddings again. I’ve never been a huge fan. Sure, the whole promising to love another person forever part is the whole point but, let’s be honest, the real focus is on the invitations and reception decorations and dresses and all the stuff The Knot tells you is aboslutely necessary or everyone will think you’re a cheapskate and your day will be ruined and no one will ever talk to you again until you have your first kid. Because babies are cute and, of course, you’re required to have one within two years after you get married or you’ll be “that” couple.
I was not a fan of wedding planning. Part of me wanted to take the approach of one family friend who handed the reins over to her mom and said, “Do whatever. Just no pink and no purple.” Or, you know, elope. But, I stuck it out and our wedding was great and almost all of our friends and family were there. And, apparently, we clean up well.
It’s my first “bridesmaid to the rescue” moment, working to get her to calm down and realize she’s got almost a year and that not every decision has to be made right now. Sure, picking a date is a priority (she’s got it down to two weekends) as is picking bridesmaids and groomsmen (which is almost done). But things like hair styles can certainly wait. And I’m here for her when she needs to bounce ideas off someone or talked off a ledge.
I just need to keep from laughing because, you have to admit, it is sort of funny how freaked out people get with wedding planning. The whole point is you’re getting married and your friends and family are there to witness it. Everything else is just the stuff you’ll only remember when you pull out your wedding photos or a friend asks you to be a bridesmaid.
